Loving Without Strings: Integrity in Relationship
About Love
Love is the ultimate renewable resource; and the more we give away, the more is returned and the more exists in the world. No matter how much one loves, there is always more available and accessible. Isn’t that amazing?
What if we lived like everyone really is doing the best they can?
- “Love is misunderstood to be an emotion; actually, it is a state of awareness, a way of being in the world, a way of seeing oneself and others.” — David R. Hawkins
- “Once one becomes willing to give love, the discovery quickly follows that one is surrounded by love and merely didn’t know how to access it. Love is actually present everywhere and its presence only needs to be realized.” — David R. Hawkins
- “What love actually is, is the experience that someone else is all right exactly the way they are. To love somebody you have to choose for them to be the way they are. Exactly. Not, “Gee, if you’d only cut your hair, then… you know, it would be okay.” No, it’s got to be all right just that way. That’s perfect, that’s absolutely perfect, just that way. And, they’ve got to be all right the way they’re not. Now, if you make something all right the way it is and all right the way it’s not, what’s another word for that? Space. The person’s got the space to be. You know, they can be. They can be the way they are and they don’t have to. Because it’s all right with you for them not to be the way they are. And it’s all right with you for them to be the way they are. That’s love.”– Werner Erhard
- Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. – Rumi
My Personal Experience of Love
The love is always there . . .
- I love that I am always in the presence of love whether or not I am aware of or open to it. I love that at any moment, I can choose that openness and awareness.
- I love that even when I choose to not be open or aware of love, it waits patiently for me to return.
- I love that there is more love present in my life than I ever thought possible. I love that I cannot be aware of the abundant love in my life without being flooded with gratitude, which colors all of my experience of life.
- I love that the more love you create and share, the more there is; it is true abundance.
- I love contributing to others so that they can get insight into who they are in the world. I love the reflection that I get in return of who I am being in the world. I love the transaction of giving and receiving.
- I love that I can choose. Anything. I can even choose to choose with or without awareness.
- I love being in touch with the miraculous that is always so present that we take it as ordinary, and the gratitude that is accessible when I remember this.
- I love the seeing the reflection of how I am being in the world; when I don’t like how I am being, that reflection is a reminder of how I want to be. When I like how I am being, that reflection is an affirmation.
- I love the awareness that a conscious breath can bring to any moment.
- I love that I can always choose choice unless I am reacting.
- I love that no matter how much one loves, there is always more available and accessible. It is a renewable resource, and the more we give away, the more is returned
- I love who I am.
Originally written March 12, 2011
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